From one of my favorite books on grieving:Safe Passages"You are not lost. You continue in every hearty laugh, in every nice surprise, and in every reassuring moment in my life.""Now that she is gone, never hestitate to tell her story. She has left you behind with treasures to be shared. When you remember,your memories are sent far into the future, a sweet heritage for all those who will come after. And be assured that your story is being told, too, somewhere, to a rapt audience of all those who came before.Our thoughts and comfort are with you ... dear friends.